Diagnosis: A Dad’s Perspective

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I thought that it would be helpful to take the time to understand my son’s dad’s perspective on our son’s autism and chromosome diagnosis. Likewise, his dad has a diagnosis of 16p11.2 microduplication. I also wanted to know how he felt receiving a diagnosis later on in life (adult diagnosis).

The Interview.

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The Interview.

Did you struggle to come to terms with our son’s diagnosis of 16p11.2 microduplication and Autism Spectrum Disorder?

Yes and no. In one way I was relieved as I knew that his behaviour was different and at the same time I struggled as I didn’t want to accept it.

Did you have much understanding of autism when he was diagnosed?

No, I thought that the doctor was over exaggerating.

What is your perception of autism now?

I realize that like myself, there are also benefits as I am good at fixing things and solving problems.

What has been the most challenging thing for you with regards to our son?

Not understanding his sensory and emotional needs.

Did you struggle to come to terms with your chromosome diagnosis of 16p11.2 microduplication?

Yes, but then I realized that it answered a few things that I was questioning about myself while growing up, like the way I conducted myself towards others.

Did you struggle with anything as a child or find any situation challenging?

Yes, I struggled with sarcasm and eye contact. I always asked others to repeat themselves, and I always corrected people.

Do you feel that you can openly speak about your diagnosis?

Yes, in a way, as it explains my behaviour as in the need to constantly move about and being loud. On the other hand, I struggle to express my emotions so find it hard to open up to people.

As a dad do you feel that there are services/people you can access and rely on for support?

Yes, I access support online.

What would you say our son’s best qualities are?

Caring, creative, problem solving with his video games and he is also very tidy.

Do you have any advice for other dads whose child is autistic or has a chromosome diagnosis?

Be patient and adapt to your child’s needs. Don’t blame yourself if your child inherited anything from you as you can’t help the way you were born.

Diagnosis Related Posts: Diagnosis: A Grandparent’s Perspective and Diagnosis: The Journey Ahead Part One.

6 Comments

    1. Thank you. We both work together to do what is right and in the best interest of our son. At first it was a struggle but we now have a system that works for us despite not being together. Our son gets to see both sides of his family and we both make the effort to communicate to each other.

      1. I would like to think me and my husband would be the same for Evie if we ever split. It’s so important not to let the kids suffer but sadly so many do and it’s so unfair. Xx